Claudine, 60
With John, there’s no pressure, unlike in my previous relationship
Around five years back, I exited a partnership that lasted over 30 years and honestly didn’t expect to encounter anyone new. I attempted online dating, but it felt overwhelming – individuals would simply message “Hi” and then disappear for a week.
John consistently came into view, and when we finally met, about two years ago, I thought, “Oh my goodness, he’s wonderful. There was a genuine chemistry.”
I was taken aback that I actually found him attractive – and that everything clicked. After a lengthy period without intimacy, you assume nothing will function anymore. I believed I was past my prime and then discovered that I wasn’t at all. The intimacy was immediately excellent. I walk about with an absurd grin. The happiness is extraordinary.
Initially, we were intimate daily. It was delightful, but now that we cohabitate, reality interferes. However, as long as we have the time, we maintain intimacy, so it’s not due to a lack of yearning. We’re probably down to once a week now. The major difference with John is that there’s never any pressure, unlike my past relationship. The more pressure there is, the less appealing intimacy becomes.
If we’re too exhausted at night, we’ll schedule a couple of hours in the afternoon because we recognize that a quick encounter isn’t going to suffice for me, and John has incredible endurance. You feel as though you’re in your 20s. The only catch is that you’re wiped out afterward.
I’m fairly certain we’re very conventional in our activities – we’re not adventurous. It’s simply healthy, fantastic intimacy. The key aspect is that due to our age, we require ample time. Initially, we would head to bed by 11, and still be awake at three in the morning.
Being older means you understand what you desire, and it’s not merely about lust. It’s about a genuine, deeper bond.
John, 62
Claudine claims I have a very short memory, but each experience is always the finest
After parting ways with my wife a decade ago, I began utilizing dating applications. It transformed my life in an instant, from feeling quite solitary to being genuinely enthusiastic about life and meeting new individuals. I went on many dates, and most ended up with some form of intimacy.
In all my partnerships, intimacy has been significantly important. And with Claudine, it’s truly, truly delightful. She says I simply have a very short memory, but each instance is always the finest. I guess it’s because there appears to be a shared understanding, pleasure, and communication.
We only ever engage in slow, loving intimacy. And for that, we require at least an hour. Carving out that time isn’t as straightforward as when we first met. Back then, we were likely engaging in at least one and sometimes two intimate sessions a day, completely exhausted due to lack of sleep. Now that we have been living together for a year, the frequency has decreased. Most nights end with us going to bed together, occasionally completely nude, sometimes in our underwear. Usually, she will have her back to me; I believe that’s called spooning. There’s a lovely intimacy in that.
One perk of aging is that I don’t finish as quickly. When I was younger, I could never have endured this long in foreplay, being stroked and embraced without climaxing. Instead of experiencing perhaps 15 minutes of pleasure – which may have been the case in my prior partnerships – it extends over an hour and feels exceptionally thrilling.
In fact, many of our lovemaking encounters don’t actually involve penetrative sex. And that’s perfectly fine; it’s about building up to a thrilling climax.
